Sean and Tori Start a Homeschool

With all of the Julia-centric posts, I think it is easy to forget that this blog is titled “Sean and Tori make a family“. So I thought I would fill everyone in with some big news concerning Kaitlyn and Claire.

Two years ago, we had decided to pull Kaitlyn from the private school that she was in and send her to public school. That turned out to be a mistake that lasted all of five days. In our struggle to figure out what to do next, we decided to homeschool her for 2nd grade.

While it was generally a success, we did struggle with the socialization aspect, mainly because at the time, we lived in a neighborhood without any children Kaitlyn’s age. So while she learned a lot, she was lonely.

Towards the end of that year, we discovered a small private school in the Summerville area called Trinity Classical Acadamy. After meeting with the director and some of the teachers, we immediately enrolled her for 3rd grade, and it was a great decision.

Then we found out we were pregnant. And that the baby had issues. Issues that were best solved 1,000 miles away from home. And that would take at least two months to accomplish. Two months in the middle of the school year.

I still have absolutely no doubts that moving to Boston for Julia’s delivery and surgery was the right thing to do. But leaving Kaitlyn and Claire was one of the most painful things I have ever experienced in my life.

So as we approach another round of surgery on our little Julia, we made the decision that this time, the girls would come with us. Which means as of January 1, Kaitlyn and Claire are being homeschooled.

This wasn’t a decision we stepped into lightly. And we love Trinity and its teachers. But ultimately we need to do what is best for us as a family. And in our case, that means staying together.

Thank you 2017

Happy New Year! We hope you all enjoyed the holidays with your family.

2017 was a pretty amazing year for us! We can’t wait to see what 2018 has in store for our little family!

Fall update

I have been meaning to write this update for a little over a month now. So finally, here you go!

At the end of September we went back to Boston for another urology follow up. While we were there we also saw an oculoplastic surgeon, Julia’s  facial plastic surgeon, her hand and foot plastic surgeon, and her orthopaedic surgeon.

First up was the oculoplastic surgeon. We were referred to her from the opthamologist up there. She mentioned the possibility of putting a sling in Julia’s left eye to help raise her eyelid. We also talked about a type of lens that would have a hand painted iris to match her other eye. These are way down the road though. So for now we just let her be and continue to visit our opthamologist here in Charleston (who we think is great!).

Later that day was an appointment with Julia’s facial plastic surgeon, as well as her hand & foot plastic surgeon. We discussed the timeframe for her first surgery with them which looks like it would be sometime in early 2018. Her left two fingers will be separated, her left foot will be worked on, the left corner of her mouth will be made to close better (it’s rounded right now), and an area on her nose will be worked on. The good news is that Julia should not need to stay in the hospital very long, meaning we should not need to stay in Boston too long. While surgery is scary, Sean and I take comfort in knowing that she will receive the best possible care at a hospital who already knows how to  handle all of her requirements. We’ll keep you all updated as we receive more information.

The next day is the day we were most looking forward to, Urology day! The day started with some scans. Julia had an ultrasound of her abdomen, then we went to get an x-ray of her hand and foot for plastic surgery. She was a trooper for both.


Now during the x-ray, Sean and I were expecting to have an image taken of Julia’s spine. However after having the technician double check her orders, there wasn’t one requested, so off we went to see her orthopeadic surgeon. To be completely honest, we were a little disappointed with this visit. We like the doctor, but we did not feel he came prepared to the appointment. And when you are traveling from out of state for said appointment, you expect everyone to be prepared. Anyways, we reminded him of our concerns about a curve in Julia’s spine. He reviewed the images from our last visit and said that while there are some areas to keep an eye on, she is OK. He would like to get an MRI when she is about a year old to get better pictures, but nothing to do at the moment.

And finally, our favorite department! Dr. Borer and his team did their exam and went over everything with us. Julia looks great and everything continues to do what it’s supposed to. She still has some reflux of urine back into her kidneys, but the amount is not at a level to be concerned. We do not have to go back for a follow up until Julia is a year old. We just need to keep her healthy and let her continue to grow. While we will miss seeing our Boston family, we are thrilled to know that Julia is doing so well. Keep it up princess!